Remember to include your children in the day to day preparations rather than shoo them away. What can they do to contribute? Be creative. Young children can draw pictures to go on gifts. They can add stickers on name places for the holiday table. Decorating their own wrapping paper can be an exciting activity as well. The ideas are endless no matter what the age or ability of the child. A busy child who feels that they are a part of the process is less likely to act out for negative attention.
Stay away from what the child WANTS for themselves as the center of the season. It is fun to make wish lists, but aside from that, look for ways for them to contribute something to the community. Perhaps the child can help look through old winter coats to choose ones that no longer fit so that they can be donated. Have them find books they have outgrown that can be given away to those less fortunate. It is a great time of year to have them look at their own piggy banks and take out a small amount to buy a needy child a gift to bring to a donation site. The child actually taking their own money, taking the trip to the toy store, making the choice, and dropping off the toy is an unforgettable experience.
In the kitchen, take the opportunity to include the child. Rather than use television or computers to keep them busy, choose a food that they can help you make for the holidays. Choose age appropriate foods. Simple break and bake cookies are perfect for the young child. Why not let your older one experiment a bit with a simple desert recipe with minimal supervision. Best of all, work together to create something in which you can share the pride.
Allow children to use their computer time to create holiday cards and decorations. And of course, the season is the perfect time to go the library or book store to choose family reading material.
There is nothing like cuddling up with your child on the couch or at bedtime to share a book. Something magical happens in every book! discuss it- and share it.
For the older child, use old family photos to draw you together. Another choice is to read the same book so you can have fun discussing your viewpoints.
No matter how you choose to go about it, don't forget that while rushing around trying to get your home, meals, shopping and family ready for the busy season, include your child on as many levels as you can.
When all is said and done the precious time spent together are the memories that will matter the most!
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